I was listening to Matchbox Twenty on Pandora radio when I wrote this, so if you'd like to get in the same kinda mood I am in then turn it on! Maybe it'll make the material hit home a little more.
Just earlier today I watching a movie called "Moms' Night Out". I'd say it's worth a watch, I mean was it a chick-flick? Absolutely. But you'll soon find out that I enjoy a decent chick-flick every once in a while. Men can honestly learn a lot about women through chick-flicks. It was made by women for women, so why not watch it, take a few notes on the ol' legal pad (just a joke) and see what women want and what they like? Just my personal take on the matter, that's all (plus it had the same actor that was Samwise Gamgee from Lord of the Rings, so it was a win-win cause that guy's the man).
ANYWAY while I was watching it I noticed that the main character was a women that reminded me a lot of my ex-girlfriend. This girl did a number on me; she was beautiful, a subtle beauty just like the main character in the movie I mentioned above. Now I'm not gonna get all sappy on you but I should mention that I loved her, and still do. From the first day I met her I thought that we would be together for a very long time, and I could see her as the mother of my children. She had all the motherly and "wifely" qualities that someone should look for,. I was afraid that once she dumped me I would never find another like her.
But you know what, I can't just walk around day in and day out sad and depressed because one girl didn't value me as much as I valued her. You gotta learn to move on. I'm not saying I hate this girl, cause although she cheated on me I definitely don't hate her; but eventually I woke up and said, "Stew, if she loved you like you love her, then she wouldn't have screwed the pooch in your relationship."
If you're going through a hard time after a break up I want you to remember that relationships are two lane roads. It takes effort from both parties including him or her, and you can't be the only one putting fourth effort. Go out with the guys and hit the bars! I'm not telling you to be a creep and hit on every girl with ten toes but I am telling you to get up and surround yourself with good friends and good times. If you're my age (19 or 20ish) then these are the best times of your life! Go enjoy them!
At this stage in your life (early 20s) you shouldn't have to work very hard to make a relationship "stay a-float". It should be fun and exciting and you should be trying to figure out what you like and don't like. Sure I daydream about this girl "focusin' up" and coming back to me but at the end of the day this isn't the most likely scenario. There truly are a lot of fish in the sea, and now I'm taking this time to focus on myself and my hobbies and my flaws that I'd like to improve. I'm sure that when the time is right another lovely lady will put in as much effort as I do towards getting to know me and I can give it all another shot again.
Focus on yourself for a minute. Read a book and for God's sake go play some golf! If she (or he, sorry to not focus so much on the lady readers, I'll try and get better at that) was meant to be with you then he/she will be. If you two were meant to share another sunset or eat another meal out then it will happen. So don't get bogged up on one that wasn't right for you, because you might miss out on the one that is.
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